Eleni Vardaki What is stress

What Is Stress?

WHAT’S THE ISSUE: It’s not true that stress is just “an emotional problem.” Scientific research has proven that stress, especially when we’re talking about traumatic stress or posttraumatic stress, is very much a physiological problem. It is important for us to educate ourselves so that we learn what stress does to our body, because it can have serious consequences on our health if it remains stuck in our body for too long. 

In this article you will learn about the three components of stress: 

  • the physical component
  • the emotional component
  • the cognitive (thoughts/beliefs) component. 

This article is intended as an educational resource, so that you can educate yourself on the importance of consciously processing unhelpful levels of stress. In contrast, you know you are unconsciously avoiding the problem when you are over-engaged in ‘numbing’ activities like scrolling for hours on social media, binge-watching your favorite shows on YouTube and Netflix, stress eating junk food/comfort food, drinking etc).

THE PHYSICAL COMPONENT OF STRESS

HOW DOES STRESS AFFECT THE BRAIN? 

Your brain’s response to stress is to activate the amygdala, which is towards the back of your brain, in sounding the alarm for the rest of your body to go into the Fight/Flight/Freeze response. But before I go into talking about how stress affects the body, I want to say a few more points that are important about how stress affects the brain.

First, let’s talk about brain chemistry. When we are under a lot of stress, whether this is sudden and acute stress, or whether this is that we are experiencing a period of long-term, sustained, chronic stress, our brain gets the signal to secrete a stress hormone called CORTISOL. The fact that a stress hormone exists is clear evidence that stress is not simply an emotional problem, it is a physiological problem. It exists in our body, in the form of stress hormones. 

Another clear example that stress is a physiological problem for us as humans, when we are trying to make important life choices and decisions and we need to be able to think in a clear, wise and intelligent manner, is that stress blocks our ability to access the part of our brain that is responsible for mindful, conscious, and intelligent decision making. 

The front part of our brain, the frontal lobe, where we have what’s called our Prefrontal Cortex, is what you want to be able to access, if you want to be able to do things like:

  • get better grades.
  • achieve your academic potential in exam conditions.
  • write an excellent essay/research assignment/dissertation.
  • make wiser choices about how you spend your time. 
  • make healthier choices about what to eat or drink.
  • overcome indecision.
  • improve your time management skills, or organize yourself and your environment better.
  • notice ‘red flags’ when you’re getting to know people in friendships, romantic relationships, or work that signal that it’s in your best interest to put a boundary or reconsider whether this is a safe person to further pursue a relationship with.

However, you cannot access the front part of your brain if you are stuck in a state of chronic or acute stress. The reason for this is that when the brain sets off the signal for the Fight/Flight/Freeze response to take over your body, via the amygdala, your whole body moves into what’s called the Survival Mode. 

You may not be aware of it, but on a subconscious level, your body is focusing all of it’s energy and resources into being on hyper-alert for potential or real current or future threats. In a nutshell, the consequence of this is that you get stuck in your ‘Emotional Brain’, if you will, and your access to your ‘Thinking Brain’ has basically been cut off.

 

HOW DOES STRESS AFFECT THE BODY?

So now that we’ve talked a bit about how stress affects the brain, let’s consider some of the ways that stress affects the body. Did you know that just because stress is negatively affecting your body, that doesn’t mean you are aware of it’s damaging effect? 

What do I mean by this: if you have spent weeks, months, or years of your life in a state of stress and overwhelm, your nervous system can become accustomed to this new level of stress. So what you consider to be “normal”, because you “feel fine” in this new-normal kind of state, is not necessarily good for your mental or physical health long-term. That’s something to be aware of. I’ll come back to why this is important towards the end of this section.

On a chemical level, the main stress hormone that is running through your body when you’re under acute or chronic stress is a hormone called ADRENALINE. Have you ever seen people pacing back and forth in a hospital while they wait for news from the doctor on how a loved one is doing? Or maybe you’ve felt that surge of energy pushing you forward at the start of a race to run faster than you’re used to during practice training for the event? Or you may have felt a bit jittery as you waited for a test or exam to be handed out, and you noticed that your leg started to automatically move briskly up and down. These are all signs that your body is filled with adrenaline.

Now let’s move on to how stress affects your nervous system. Something that’s very important to understand is that when I’m talking about the impact of stress on the nervous system, I’m talking about what’s called the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). ‘Autonomic’ means ‘automatic’, ‘involuntary’ or ‘unconscious’, right? So remember that these effects are not happening on a conscious level, they are happening on an unconscious level. This is why a lot of times, people who are experiencing a lot of stress may always not even be aware of the impact stress is having on our body. Therefore, increasing self-awareness through increasing body awareness is often an important part of the work I do with clients who come to me ready to work on releasing stress from their body. It is empowering for us to become more skilled in noticing what our body is telling you about precisely what kinds of situations trigger an unhelpful quantity of stress in our body, so that we can learn the lesson we need to learn to break old habits and patterns that are no longer serving us or our relationships.

The impact of stress on the nervous system can become a cause in two ways. The two possible ways in which stress affects the nervous system are accompanied by two distinct sets of behaviors that you can look out for as signals that ‘Something is wrong’ and ‘I need help’ or ‘My child needs help’ or ‘This student needs help’.

 

POSSIBILITY NO. 1) HYPERAROUSAL OF THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM

When the Autonomic Nervous System goes into a state of hyperarousal, this basically means a person gets stuck in a state of hyperactivity. In school-age children and university students, what this could look like is:

  • difficulty sitting still for extended periods of time.
  • difficulty concentrating on  work due to easily distracted focus.
  • difficulty in remembering what you learned due to an increased focus on random environmental stimuli.

 

POSSIBILITY NO. 2) HYPOAROUSAL OF THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM

When the Autonomic Nervous System goes into a state of hypoaraousal, this basically means a person gets stuck in a state of lethargy and low energy. In school-age children and university students, what this can look like is: 

  • apathy, inattention or boredom in class.
  • wanting to spend more time socializing and making new friends/with friends, but feeling like you don’t have the energy to reach out to someone to chat, or go out, or invite them to spend some time together. 
  • difficulty motivating yourself to get things done.

What’s important to remember – and I’d like to stress this  point – is that when the autonomic nervous system goes into a state of hypo or hyperarousal, a student is behaving in ways that they are not consciously aware of. 

They don’t know why they feel so demotivated and they have no energy. They don’t know why they feel hyperactive and are struggling to stay still and concentrate on doing their work and behave. These behaviors are all happening on the unconscious level. They certainly don’t know about how stress affects their nervous system!!

So their conscious brain tries to make sense of what is going on, and it does it’s best to make sense of all of this. And this is where the cognitive component of stress comes in.

THE COGNITIVE COMPONENT OF STRESS

When you hear ‘cognitive’, think ‘thoughts’, ‘beliefs’ – that kind of thing. Cognitive means our thinking patterns. When we’re talking about cognition, we’re talking about anything to do with our mental processes of cognitive functioning, such as how we try to explain things that feel confusing so they can make sense to us.

Here are some examples of how physical stress can lead a child to draw some unhelpful cognitive conclusions that can get in the way of their developing healthy self-esteem:

  • “I keep getting told off because I can’t stay in my seat. I’m a bad child.”
  • “I can’t focus on my school work/ university assignments. I must be dumb.”
  • “It takes me longer to read a passage than the other kids my age. I’m not smart.”
  • “I’m not feeling motivated to do my school work. That must mean I hate school.”
  • “I don’t feel I have the energy to go out with, or to Facetime with my friends, this weekend. What’s wrong with me?”
  • “I’m having a hard time connecting with people at uni. I feel so lonely and everyone seems so distant. Am I the problem? Is there something wrong with me?”

In my work as a professional Youth Mentor for Stress relief, I’ve found that a lot of the thoughts students have that are conclusions drawn from a place of being stuck in the stress response are keeping the students I work with stuck in self-flagellation, as they suffer from low self-esteem. Very few schools teach kids about how their brain and body responds to stress, and so of course, it’s not surprising that most students are completely unaware that the root of their problem is in fact stress.

It’s not that they’re ‘dumb’ or ‘lazy’ or ‘broken’, it’s that their Autonomic Nervous System has gotten stuck in a state of stress that is either above, or below, what’s called the Window of Tolerance. The Window of Tolerance is the range within which the autonomic nervous system functions when it is exposed to ordinary amounts of stress. 

When your body is exposed to extraordinary amounts of stress, either from a single event or from accumulated stress through time that is still unprocessed, that is when the hypoaroused or the hyperaroused states of the autonomic nervous system are triggered. 

But students don’t know that! Even parents/teachers don’t often know that. And so they put labels on their kids/students. Labels like:

  • “He’s weak, academically.”
  • “She’s a bit slow.”
  • “Academics aren’t her thing – but she’s good in sports. So we’ll just focus on that.” 
  • “He’s just lazy.”

Few teachers (especially in middle school and high school) and even fewer university lecturers around the world are actually qualified teachers. They may have got academic degrees in the subjects they are teaching, but they haven’t been trained in pedagogy, let alone in how to reflect upon on how best to teach kids so as to keep developing as educators during the course of their career.

Even if you have been trained to teach in some of the best universities in the world, few educational institutions actually care to educate their teacher trainees about the importance of teacher wellbeing in any meaningful…let alone student wellbeing! And how can teachers who don’t take good care of themselves have the skills and mentality needed to take good care of their students?

And so what you often end up having is a school or university culture that adds to a student’s stress, either because the learning environment is toxic, or because the student isn’t adequately supported in understanding the importance of reducing their stress, not only for their academic development, but also for their happiness, self-confidence, and general sense of wellbeing.

THE EMOTIONAL COMPONENT OF STRESS

Last but not least, let’s explore the emotional component of stress. The emotional component of stress can be subdivided in may different ways. What I will offer here is a brief introduction into one of those ways, based on my experience as an Emotional Freedom Technique practitioner, working with individuals and in small-group settings to support students and adults in releasing the emotional component of their stress.

 

CATEGORY NO. 1) FEELING STRESSED ABOUT STRESSFUL FEELINGS

This categories of emotional stress about exploring the feelings we have about certain “taboo” or painful feelings. So sometimes, what’s causing you to feel stressed is (for example):

  • The fear of getting angry; you’re scared that if you feel your anger you will loose control
  • The fear of experiencing panic or anxiety in a an upcoming stressful situation (like a presentation, or a test, or an exam)
  • The fear of feeling depressed
  • The fear of facing your fears
  • Fear of feeling the full range of your emotions

 

CATEGORY NO. 2) FEELING STRESSED ABOUT THE UNKNOWN/THE FUTURE

When working to process the stress of the unknown, we work on exploring and releasing the emotional responses that comes up when you think of the stress of a situation that has no known end to it, such as the unknown of when Coronavirus quarantine measures will end. 

Common emotions that can keep your body stuck in the stress response include:

  • Fear
  • Anxiety
  • Worry
  • Confusion
  • Frustration

 

CATEGORY NO. 3) FEELING STRESSED ABOUT CHANGES  A SITUATION IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

Here, examples include:

  • The stress of new laws being passed that force students, teachers or parents to wear a mask all day.
  • The stress of laws, rules and regulations constantly changing/
  • The stress of laws, rules and regulations not changing quickly enough to prevent the spread of COVID going out of control in your country or city.
  • The stress of not feeling safe in your work or school/university environment due to the cramped working or learning conditions.
  • The stress and overwhelm caused by information overload (too many emails, announcements, etc being made in too short a space of time for the brain to comfortably process).

 

CATEGORY NO. 4) FEELING STRESSED ABOUT HAVING TO MAKE AN IMPORTANT DECISION

Examples include:

  • The stress of deciding whether to take your child out of the school they’re in and move to them to a new school or not.
  • The stress of deciding what topic to do for your presentation, assignment, or research project.
  • The stress of deciding whether to continue with your university degree, or whether to change your degree or university altogether. 

 

CATEGORY NO. 5) FEELING STRESSED ABOUT BEING ON THE RECEIVING END OF AGGRESSIVE OR INSENSITIVE BEHAVIOR

Examples include:

  • The stress of having a classmate who tells you ‘No! Don’t pick up my pencil case because you’re not a white kid. Only white kids can touch my pencil case’, when a child of color is simply being kind enough to go out of their way to be helpful and pick up a fellow classmates pencil case when it falls to the floor. 
  • The stress of having a classmate who tells you ‘No! Don’t pick up my pencil case because you’re not a white kid. Only white kids can touch my pencil case’, when a child of color is simply being kind enough to go out of their way to be helpful and pick up a fellow classmates pencil case when it falls to the floor. 
  • The stress of teachers taking their stress out on students, rather than working on processing it in a methodical way by taking time out to seek professional support.
  • The stress of parents taking their stress out on their child, rather than working on processing it in a methodical way by taking time out to seek professional support.
  • The stress of being on the butt-end of misplaced anger.
    • Example 1: A parent who is being bullied at work unfairly taking their rage out on their child, rather than having the courage to standing up to their coworker who is the source of their stress with grace.
    • Example 2: A teacher who unfairly takes her rage about their contract terms and conditions onto a fellow co-worker in an email cc: ed to her line manager, rather than having the guts to facing the line manager or employer who is the source of the stress directly, with courage and grace.
  • The stress of living in a country where a significant number of government officials and policemen are racist, and spreading hate crime and prejudice towards ethnic and other forms of minority groups.

What can you do to calm your stress response?

While this not an exhaustive list of things you can do to release stress from your body, I hope that you find the following list of suggestions to be a helpful reminder of the variety of different options we have available us to experiment with:

  • Spend more time in nature.
  • Practice earthing/grounding by placing your feet directly on the earth.
  • See if you can find a good Shiatsu massage therapist who can release blocked energy.
  • Try doing some gentle Yin Yoga, or Restorative Yoga, exercises via educational YouTube videos before going to bed. 
  • Try downloading the free Tapping Solution app to experiment with using free tapping meditations (EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique) to release pent-up stress, anxiety and overwhelm.
  • See if you can find a good professional Reflexologist who can do therapeutic massage on your feet to help get your digestive system, sleep, and nervous system back on track.  
  • Experiment with mindful micromovement exercises to increase your body awareness.
  • Play around with short and doable mindfulness exercises that are focused on observing details you hadn’t previously noticed in your surrounding environment.
  • Try doing gentle stretching exercises for the neck area, arms, and legs, to release stress-related muscle tension that accumulates in your muscles throughout the day.
  • Start a journal to help yourself offload any stressful situation or event that happened during the day, before you go to bed.
  • Learn more about how you can use your breath to calm your nervous system, and experiment with different kind of little breath work exercises to see what helps you feel better.
  • Learn more about how you can change your diet, as getting your gut health in order by looking after your gut’s microbiome will help to alleviate certain physiological symptoms of stress.
  • Try giving yourself a foot or hand massage in the morning when you wake up, or at night when you go to bed.
  • Learn more about Solfeggio frequencies, and look up songs on YouTube that have these scientifically-supported healing frequencies in them.
  • Learn more about how you can safely use certified, medical grade (if a company has medical grade essential oils, this means they are of the best quality) essential oils like lavender, peppermint, and mandarin to help you feel more calm (lavender), focused (peppermint), and uplifted (mandarin).
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Eleni Vardaki, private support with stress or anxiety

Eleni Vardaki works as an Academic and EFT Coach specialized in stress, anxiety, and academic success. Her mission is to help bridge the gap between mainstream education and the wellbeing skills students need to thrive in the 21st century. She believes in doable, sustainable interventions for student wellbeing at all levels of education.